I’ve long wrestled with the phrase “God-shaped hole in our hearts.” You know, people say that we have a God-shaped hole in our hearts. The phrase has often been used in ways that simply portray God as a means of self-fulfillment, like God is an accessory to make us happy. It’s often used as a rather man-centered approach to presenting truths about God.
But then again, there is a kernel of truth to this phrase, isn’t there? It doesn’t take much thinking to realize that we do what we want because we think something will fulfill us in some way. We sin because we think it will bring us some sort of fulfillment, strength, identity, peace, pleasure, recognition, etc. We have been created to pursue pleasure. After all, this is the basis behind the name’s-sake quote of this very blog. C.S. Lewis famously said in his essay The Weight of Glory:
Indeed, if we consider the unblushing promises of reward and the staggering nature of the rewards promised in the Gospels, it would seem that Our Lord finds our desires, not too strong, but too weak. We are half-hearted creatures, fooling about with drink and sex and ambition when infinite joy is offered us, like an ignorant child who wants to go on making mud pies in a slum because he cannot imagine what is meant by the offer of a holiday at the sea. We are far too easily pleased.
The Fall has left us empty and wanting and our life is spent trying to find things that can only be found in God. But, of course, we look anywhere and everywhere except God. For example, my wife and I have watched a couple episodes of the TLC show Hoarding: Buried Alive. What’s been striking is that many of the hoarders have pretty openly admitted that they have tried to fill a void in their lives with stuff, so much so that, at some point, they develop an emotional attachment to the stuff and then can’t let it go. They have sought to fill their void with stuff.
While this seems odd to some of us, rather than pass judgment, we would do well to remember that we do the same things, just maybe in different ways. I live in a version of suburbia filled with mini-monster trucks, boats, off-road motorcycles, and jet skis. I may not be surrounded by hoarders, but I am surrounded by “weekend warrior,” “extreme sports,” pleasure junkies. There is an image to maintain because what other people think carries a lot of weight, and money and space go to the acquisition of toys. And then we argue about which brand of toy is best. It might look different in your neighborhood, but I’d be willing to bet you are surrounded by the same tendencies, just in different manifestations. After all, our hearts are idol factories and we church them out faster than we can bow down to them.
I mention all of this because, as a pastor, I spend a lot of time thinking about how people change. I encounter people all the time who intellectually know truths about God but still live pursuing sin. There is obviously a disconnect here, but it is not always so obvious to the people caught in the grips of sin. All of our actions are fueled by our beliefs, so part of the solution seems to be adjusting our beliefs. After all, the truth will set us free (John 8:31-32). But, if we are really trying to fill a void in our life, if, as Tim Chester says in his fabulous book You Can Change:
Every longing in us is a version of our longing for God.
If these things are true, then the answer to change is lies not just in adjusting our thoughts but, as Jonathan Edwards so keenly asserted, our affections. You fight temptation, not with will-power, but with a greater pleasure, seeing, as Chester says, “God isn’t just good, He’s better.” Do we believe this? Do we believe that in God’s presence there is fullness of joy and pleasures forevermore (Psalm 16:11)? If we are filling the void with anything other than God, we have not really tasted His goodness (Psalm 34:8). We have not heeded the command to delight ourselves in the Lord (Psalm 37:4) or seek His kingdom above all else (Matthew 6:33).
Perhaps so many of the people in so many of our churches still struggle with the chains of sin because we have not shown them a greater pleasure because we have not experienced it ourselves? We are all looking for something. Just in the wrong places. As Chester reminds us:
Every longing in us is a version of our longing for God.